If you’re in a prison relationship, you already know how fast life can get loud. More than an Inmate’s Girlfriend is a prison relationship podcast hosted by Jae (with co-host AJ), and it speaks to that noise without judging you for being in it.
For readers of PenPals.Buzz, this kind of support matters. Loving someone who’s incarcerated can feel lonely, confusing, and strangely public all at once. People ask questions they’d never ask about a “normal” relationship, then act like you owe them answers.
This show doesn’t treat you like a headline or a cautionary tale. It offers honest stories, practical advice you can actually use, and the kind of hope that doesn’t ignore the hard parts. It’s for girlfriends, wives, fiancés, family, friends, and anyone who wants a clearer view of prison life.
At its core, this podcast is about loving someone in prison and staying human while you do it. Not the polished version people post online, but the real version that comes with long waits, dropped calls, rumors, paperwork, and the constant mental math of time and money.
Many shows talk about prison like it’s entertainment. More than an Inmate’s Girlfriend feels more like sitting at a kitchen table with someone who won’t flinch at the truth. Jae and AJ make room for complicated feelings, anger, loyalty, grief, guilt, relief, joy, and the weird laughter that shows up when nothing makes sense.
If you’ve ever been labeled an inmate girlfriend like it’s your whole identity, this podcast pushes back. It reminds you that you’re still a full person with goals, limits, and needs. It also pulls back the curtain on the behind-the-scenes reality of prison systems, the rules, the power imbalance, and what families on the outside deal with when they try to show up.
You can find the show on major platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart, and Amazon Music, plus the official site, morethananinmatesgirlfriend.com. Wherever you listen, the value is the same: real voices, no shame, and episodes that leave you feeling less alone.
Episodes often center on personal stories from partners and families, told in plain language. You’ll hear about trust problems, money pressure, and the stress of prison rules that can change without warning. You’ll also hear about love that survives in small moments, a letter that lands at the right time, a visit that finally happens, a joke that breaks the tension.
The conversations don’t pretend everyone’s situation looks the same. That’s the point. New listeners can usually find an episode where someone’s story feels familiar, even if the details are different.
This isn’t a “feel good” show that skips the risks. It talks about coping with stigma, setting boundaries, and protecting your mental health when you’re carrying a relationship that other people criticize.
You’ll also hear practical themes like managing phone calls and visits, dealing with rule changes, and staying alert for scams or manipulation. It’s not legal advice, and it doesn’t try to play expert over your life. It’s more like a steady voice saying, “Here’s what this can look like, and here’s how to keep yourself safe.”
Jae’s credibility comes from lived experience, not a script. She fell in love with and married her husband, Nicholas Ely, who is incarcerated in Nebraska. He was convicted of felony murder and is serving life without parole. Jae has said she believes Nicholas did not commit the killing, and her story makes it clear how heavy that belief becomes when the system has already decided the outcome.
She also talks openly about the barriers prison families can face. In her telling, that has included being treated like a threat, blocked visits, and even paperwork problems, including forged signatures, that created extra hurdles around contact. For people on the outside, those details land hard because they’re familiar in a painful way. You can do everything “right” and still get shut down by a process that doesn’t have to explain itself.
Instead of keeping that pain private, Jae turned it into public work. She’s spoken out about justice reform and pushed to change Nebraska’s felony murder rule, including public testimony efforts where she read Nicholas’s statement at the Nebraska Legislature. The podcast also highlights other cases and guests affected by long sentences and contested convictions, which helps listeners place their own experience in a bigger context.
That’s why the show feels trusted. It doesn’t romanticize incarceration, and it doesn’t reduce people to their worst day. It turns real loss into purpose, and you can hear that in Jae’s voice.
Felony murder laws can reshape entire families, and not just the person who’s sentenced. When someone gets decades or life, the outside world has to learn a new way to love, support, and survive.
For PenPals.Buzz readers, this matters because letters and calls often become a lifeline. The show keeps that human link at the center. It helps listeners stay informed, stay grounded, and remember that the person inside is still a whole person, even when the system treats them like a file number.
Getting started is simple, and you don’t need to binge from episode one. Choose the platform you already use, then search the show name. You can listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart, and Amazon Music, or start from morethananinmatesgirlfriend.com, which points to the main platforms and includes basic info about the show.
If you want updates and short clips, portions of the podcast (and some behind the scenes commentary from Jae) can also be found on TikTok and Instagram (the most reliable way to find it is to search “More Than an Inmate’s Girlfriend” and “Jae”). There’s also a Facebook presence connected to this space, including a page titled “More Than An Inmate” for Nicholas Ely and a group called “End Felony Murder Rule in Nebraska.”
For PenPals.Buzz users who are writing someone incarcerated, dating, or building a friendship, this podcast can help you show up with more patience and fewer surprises. Try this: listen before your first visit so the rules don’t blindside you, share an episode with a trusted friend when you need backup, write down one takeaway after each listen, set a boundary you’ve been avoiding, and save episodes that calm you down for the rough weeks.
When you find episodes that help, subscribe and leave a review. It’s a small action that helps the show reach the people who need it most.
If you want a quick “this is my life” moment, look for topics like birth while a partner is locked up, prison brides, prison weddings, visit blocks, and the stress families carry on the outside. The feed also includes stories about identity, survival, and what it takes to rebuild after years of separation.
New episodes release regularly (often weekly), so it’s worth checking the latest list and picking a title that matches what you’re dealing with right now.
Loving someone inside doesn’t make you naive, weak, or “just” anything. It makes you a person doing something hard in a world that loves easy opinions.
More than an Inmate’s Girlfriend offers real stories, real support, and a host who understands the system up close, then fights to change it. If you’ve been carrying your prison relationship in silence, this podcast can feel like someone finally handing you a chair.
Search “More than an Inmate’s Girlfriend”, follow Jae, and press play on the episode that fits your week. When you’re ready to build deeper connection through letters and steady support, explore PenPals.Buzz and meet someone who needs a real friend on the outside.
